“The Four Accords” not only gave me the four chords by which I made small positive changes in my life, but the book also helped me understand the process of “domestication” and how this “Domest” shaped my belief systems. Points to Be Aware Of: This is good advice to help you become less responsive, defensive and retaliatory, but keep it in balance. While everyone has their own prejudices and there is no real objectivity, you can, by never taking anything personally, your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased ideas, really limit and work towards the development of healthier models and lucid thoughts. As Scott Peck says in The Road Less Traveled: “The problem of distinguishing between who we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence.” In Part 2 of this two-part video, we learn something about the book of the law that governs our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never compare ourselves to our “image of perfection.” All our normal tendencies are lost in the domestication process, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; We seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful. What we are looking for is our “me.” With practice, the four agreements help us restore our “authentic self” and this is the greatest gift we can make ourselves. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made as to how it leads to suffering and why individuals should not participate in doing so. If you assume what others think, it can create stress and interpersonal conflict, because the person thinks that his hypothesis is a representation of the truth.  Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the adoption act is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear.  Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not taking any assumptions. His best-known book, The Four Agreements, was released in 1997 and has sold in the United States about 10 million times and has been translated into 46 languages. The book advocates the personal freedom of convictions and agreements we have made with ourselves and with others, which create use and unhappiness in our lives.
 It was broadcast on the television show Oprah.  The four chords are: The book is based on a series of spiritual beliefs, held by Toltec elders, to help readers transform their lives into a new experience of freedom, true happiness and love.  According to the author, everything a man does is based on agreements he has made with himself, with others, with God and with life itself.  In these agreements, we can tell ourselves who they are, how to behave, what is possible and what is impossible.  Some agreements that create individuals may not cause problems, but there are certain arrangements that come from a place of fear and have the power to deplete emotional energy and reduce a person`s self-esteem.  The book states that these self-limiting agreements cause unnecessary suffering.  Ruiz also believes that to find personal joy, one must get rid of socially imposed and fear-based agreements that can unconsciously influence the individual`s behaviour and thinking.  Another fundamental premise of the book suggests that much of the suffering is created and that most people have the ability to transform themselves and the negative thoughts they have about the situations in their lives.  The author identifies the sources of unhappiness in life and proposes four beneficial agreements that can be concluded with oneself to improve their general state of well-being.